Rope is a drug. It’s addictive. It’s mind altering, and can reveal hidden truths about yourself. It can tap into parts of your brain otherwise unexplored, show you what is possible and what you are capable of. As a rope top or rope bottom your biochemistry changes in rope. Adrenaline, cortisol, endorphins are released into […]
Whilst running rope events, we will inevitably come across dangerous people wanting to access our spaces. Whether in person or online, we need to set clear rules on conduct, and at the same time communicate openly your willingness to ban such people from your event. You’d think it would be that straight forward. But, sadly, […]
Perhaps it’s because I’m in my 50s, or maybe it’s my chronic health conditions and disability, or the changes in the political arena, but I have felt a huge shift in myself in the last year. The hedonism of my 40’s has passed. My body’s changes invites new perspectives and needs. I no longer want […]
Living with long covid is not easy. It has disabled me and has drastically affected the rope play I can do. Self suspension is particularly challenging, since I’m in charge of all the planning and mitigation and self suspension is very demanding on my body. With some ideas from some fantastic self tiers in an […]
This year, as part of my battle with Long Covid, my hand function has deteriorated. COVID19 initially attacked my heart and central nervous system and I am left moderately to severely disabled. So for a few years, I have not been able to do basic things and the things I love as much as I […]
My new book Living Rope is out now! Available on Amazon and Kindle. GET YOUR COPY NOW! Living Rope explores the many facets of rope play, delving into the reasons and intentions of rope players, based on the author’s decade long experience. It also describes Dea Nexa’s approach to consent and relationships, and how identity […]
You don’t have to do anything that you don’t want. No one should ever be pressured into an act or course of action. No one should be manipulated into being bound, hit, called names, dress a certain way, act a certain way, at all. Ever. Don’t do it. Without out consent, the freely given, enthusiastic, […]
I have found there is a strong air of romanticism in some rope photography that I have seen. By romanticism, I do not mean the artistic period. I mean the feelings of romance and other worldliness of rope play, a step or two away from the reality of everyday life. Very often we see partially […]
New Bonds: A Relationship Coaching Toolkit for People Living Alternative Lifestyles New Bonds is a new person-centred approach to self-development and coaching toolkit for people living alternative lifestyles. Whether you are LGBTQ+, polyamorous, kinky, or want to explore your relationship preferences, this is the book for you. You will be invited to explore who you […]